Ten must see places before you get married...

If you came to this blog expecting that i am going to write

about some must see erotic places that you have to visit before getting married, then sorry to disappoint you folks.

Actually name of this blog should have been "Ten must see places before you Die". But i changed it. Anyhow both sentences mean the same. Marriage is also like death. Death of freedom, individuality, more than anything Death of your independence to take your own decisions. I think i am moving away from topic. I thought of writing about good travel destinations and ended up giving reasons not to marry.

Before i start my list, few things i need to mention. Only places i have visited personally will be in this list as i don't want to add or remove some place on the basis of some review i read about that place in net. Second thing is I have not traveled above nasik( Nasik is a place in Maharashtra where according to ramayana, Mr. Lakshmana chopped off Surphanaka's Nose ) towards north, so all places will be from south India.

10. Sand Beach of Pondichery : There is nothing special or unique about this place. Its just a small island where we have to reach by a boat. Nice Beach ( I don't like east coach beaches though..) I have spent some good time here with some good people. That's Enough to get a Number 10 position for this island in Pondichery.

9. Agumbe Ghats : I had been to this place so many times. I used to go to sringeri from udupi every Friday in a Royal Enfield. Riding a Royal Enfield in 13 hair pin bends of Agumbe is an awesome experience. I had been to this place so many times and have seen this in all climatic conditions. Nothing can beat the beautiful view we will get in Agumbe in rainy days. Did i tell you that agumbe records the second highest rainfall in India. If you are a fan of shankar nag's Malgudi Days then you must also know that shankar nag shot the whole malgudi series in Agumbe. ( Additional information - Malgudi does not exist - R K Narayanan just combined his two favorite areas to get this name. Malleswaram and Basavanagudi).

8. Jaganmohana Aramane( Art Gallery) in Mysore: I had been here only couple of times even after staying in mysore for four years. Its an Art gallery and is mostly filled with all the weapons and music instruments which were used by Mysore Maharaja and British people. But there is something else which is very special. Paintings from Raja Raviverma. Raja Raviverma is a guy who gave new dimension to Indian painting. I read somewhere that Raviverma was the one who has given face to numerous god and goddess of Hindu religion through his paintings. Till the time of Raviverma Indians saw god only in statues. But He showed god to people by painting god on a canvas. I like two of his paintings very much. A painting where raja shantanu is asking satyawati, daughter of a fisherman to marry( This one is from Mahabharata). Raviverma was able to bring out the right expressions on face of shantanu, beautiful satyavati and her father. Other one is the most popular one. Lady holding a Deepa in her hand. I am eagerly waiting for this movie "Rang Rasiya" which is based on this great painter ( I accept there are other interesting things in Rang Rasiya as well..).

7. Green Route - This is the railway route from Sakleshpur to Subramanya in western ghats. There are numerous number of tunnels and bridges that we have to pass by. My initial memory of this place is when i was a kid and i used to wait for tunnels and bridges while traveling from mangalore to tumkur in train. Then they stopped Train in this route for gauge conversion in 1991. After that it became a trekking route. It is a 40km route, just walking next to railway tracks in middle of western ghats. You will have to pass through long tunnels ( Some are up to 800 m long) and very high bridges. Need to be very careful while crossing bridges (I have read about many people who died during trek in this route) A very different and challenging experience all together.

6. Brihadeshwara and Meenakshi temples of Tanjavur and Madurai - First thing that i can notice about these temples is that they are huge. There is no place for things which are small. Starting from the total area of temple to size of statues, everything is huge. But there is no fine carvings that we can see in belur. All statues are plain with very simple carvings. In Brihadeshwara ( Brihath + Eshwara = Huge God) we can also so see a big nandi ( Third biggest nandi in India.) Meenakshi temple is so big that you will get lost. You will enter temple from one side of town and come out from the other side of town and start searching for your vehicle. Then off course you have to take a bus to reach the entrance to get to your parked vehicle. One good thing about these temples are in a single temple complex you will get all gods and goddess statues. You can choose any of god and start worshiping. Tamils are the most spiritual people i have ever seen. Still they are ruled by DMK.( DMK policy is not to believe in any god)

6. Ajantha and Ellora: I had been here many years back. So I don't remember this place much. But still i can remember the series of dark caves and beautiful paintings inside that( these paintings are fading now.. so better visit before it is completely gone). Actually these caves were unknown to civilized world till some English officer found them behind bushes in middle of jungle. Beautiful statues of Buddha, paintings inside dark caves( they used colors made from plants) and some interesting construction in Elora are main attractions. People used to find treasure when they dig up this region (That means it was a very rich place in history). Definitely a Must see for people who like visiting historical places.

4. Belur and Halebidu: Two temples built in Hoysala regime of Vishnuvardhana ( There is a third one in somanathapura). It took them 103 years to build this temple. One of the finest piece of art is here. First half of the temple is devoted for god with most of the god statues in front. Rest of the temple is filled with ShilaBalikas. You must hire a guide to know the story behind each stone. Most of Shilabalikas are in very bad state ( All good shilabalikas are in London Museum for Art). But we must really appreciate those fine carvings ( Both sculptor and his model.. :)). My favorite in Belur is a big statue of Ugra Narasimha. They used to carve miniature statues before carving big ones. We can see all miniature statues as well. Definitely a Must see place.

3. Mulayangiri : I did not believe it when i heard that karnataka's highest peak MulayanaGiri has road till the top. It takes couple of hours of trek to reach Tadiyandamol( Highest point in Coorg). But here to reach top there is no trek. Just sit in a vehicle and have a ride. There is no match to the scenic beauty of MulayanaGiri. You have to just be there to experience it. Chickmaglur to tarikeri covering mulayangiri, babanudangiri, hebbe falls, kalahatti falls and Kemmangundi, will be a ride to remember. Even though distance is just 70km and road is pretty bad but scenic beauty we will get to see hear makes us to forget all other things. Definetly Number One in my list.

2. Beaches of Goa : If you are planning for a lousy holiday with lots of leisure, relaxation and less travel, then this is your holiday destination. Hiring a two wheeler and racing in roads of Goa is a must. This place is so different from rest of India. Speciality of this place is that you will feel like a alien here( i love that feeling..). When i say different i am not talking about culture, life style or the way they live, I speak of the difference in mindset of people. People here are so liberal. They welcome all cultures and appreciate them very well. Your nation or caste will not affect the way you live in here. That's the reason it draws such a huge amount of foreign tourists. Two wheeler ride in old roads of Goa which runs in between coconut fields, Relaxing in beaches and night ride in boat are must.

1. Rameshwaram : This is the place where rama started to build a bridge to lanka ( Actual place is dhanushkodi, couple of miles away from city ). There is a temple in place where rama did a pooja of linga and then there is sea. This is a small island completely filled with proofs of Rama's adventure (i am not sure how true are those..).

It was dark and i was standing on the sands of rameshwara with hundreads of others in early hours, to get first glimpse of rising sun. I was holding something which i will let go on that day( thats jus a ritual.. somethings we can never let go.. does not matter how hard you try). That was a very spiritual moment. Thousands of thoughts from past running in my mind. Felt like sitting there and start crying ( No one would have noticed that.. people were so busy there). It was one of very few moments in my life that made me go weak emotionally. Standing in front of ocean i realised i am so small. I am just a tiny piece of dust in front of this huge life. But as they say each guy is a hero in his own life.

I dont know whether hanuman really dropped a linga that he bought from shiva or rama really did a pooja here. But this is a very spiritual place. We can take bath in ocean and then have bath in some 30 odd wells. Then we have to proceed to see linga worshipped by rama and one more linga bought by hanuman from kailasa.We can also do some shopping of shankas and some decorative items made of sea shells.

So this is my list of must see places in south india. I just hope that you will visit all these places before you get married :) .

Time is all we have...

My first request is don't read this blog if you are busy. There is nothing special or important in this blog. So read it only when you are free.

I know all you people are very busy these days . If you are so busy that you are not able to be in touch with loved ones, then take five min off from your busy schedule and think about the way you are living. There is no point in living life if you are living without your loved ones.

Thought of telling you a story. You might have heard this many times, but don't make that as a excuse to skip this blog from reading.

Once a professor showed a box to his students and asked them to fill it with big stones. His students filled the box completely with big stones. After that professor asked his students, " Is this Box Full ?"

Students replied, " Yes, Its completely Full. There is no space left".

So professor got some small stones and put all small stones into that box. All Small stones made their way into box. So he filled the box with small and big stones. Now he asked Students " Is this Box Full ?"

Students replied, " Yes, Its completely Full. There is no space left".

Now he poured lot of sand into that box. Box was able to take in lot of sand.So he stuffed the box with sand completely. Sand filled all the space left by Small and big stones.

Now he asked Students " Is this Box Full ?"

Students replied, " Yes, Its completely Full. Definetly There is no more space left".

He took a cup of coffee and poured that into box. Box was able to take a cup of coffee inside.

Thats the end of the story. :)

You might be thinking What is so special about that story?

THis box is us and space inside that is the time we have in this life.

Big Stones are things for which we live. Things without which our life becomes vacant or baseless. So we spend our life because of these things. These things may be anything depending on individual priority. These things are parents, siblings, friends, passion for something, satisfaction from life, your dreams, a childhood friend, your spouse, Health, MBA, .etc . For me its My parents, My relatives, small bunch of friends, My health, More than anything satisfaction in life. I always prefer doing something in which i get satisfaction.

Small stones are those which helps us to keep big stones intact. These things are important but we can live without that, These things may be Job, Social status, Wealth, Social contacts, Acquaintances, Entertainment etc.

Sand is small things which has no value in our life. Like transportation, daily routines,

So its very important to put big stones into box first. If we fill the box with Small stones or Sand first, then we can't put Big Stones into box. Just means that it is very important to give time in life to things which are of high priority for us. We live our life for these things, If we lose any of these stones, then we are losing some thing very big.

Once you are sure you have given enough time for high priority tasks, then give time for small stones. If we lose any of these, we are losing something but we can do without that.

So after big and small stones comes the turn of giving time to sand. In fact in life we will always have time to do these things.

Oh I forgot to tell about that Cup of Coffee. It does not matter how much the box is full? there will be always space for a cup of coffee. Like that It does not matter how much busy you are? there will be always time to have cup of coffee with your loved ones.

Nitin

Actually I wrote this in a hurry. So a apology for all spelling and grammatical mistakes.

More than a year has passed since I wrote this and now I have realized that setting proper priorities in life does not mean everything is on track. It becomes very difficult to hold on to few things even If you give MAXIMUM Priority.

A page from My Dairy!!!

Everyone in their lives would have had Girl Friends, and me too had my share of Girl Friends few out of them were crushes. But, it didn't take much time for each of them to turn to crashes. None of my crushes took off, or probably they crashed even before they took off !! Today, when I look back, I cant manage but to have a laugh.

My first friend was Miss S. I know Her from my Childhood. She was my friend even before i knew what friendship means. As she was my neighbour and class mate we used to spend lot of time together. We share lot of sweet memories, infact we were so young that now we dont remember most of them. But our friendship in childhood was short lived. Her Father got a transfer,so we departed very early in our childhood. May be that was the time i realised meaning of a good friend.You always realise value of something when you lose it. She is one girl who is still there in my life and will be there forever as a good friend and a good guide.

After Miss. S I never had a girl close to me in my childhood days. I was always seen in a All Boy's group. though Girls were our Primary topic of discussion. Playing Cricket and comparing our class girl's with other section girls were our hobbies.Even after so much of discussion and arguements we were never able to figure out a Girl's behaviour. Even today after so many years No guy from that group have a Girl Friend including me. So still for that group girls are just a topic of discussion. So we are still a All Boy's Club.

After staying in City all my life, I was in a situation to do my 9th and SSLC in a Halli in North Karnataka. I was really depressed about this fact and got more depressed when i visited that place. I think People over there never heard of words like "Sanitation" and "Cleanliness". They had a very unique style of building houses. The place my family rented had 6 rooms all in a row like railway compartments. Third compartment was supposed to be Hall, Fourth Kitchen and last one Master Bed Room. On My first day in that halli i was lying in sixth compartment(Master Bed Room) when my mother asked me to accompany her for a temple visit. Usually I dont like visiting temples,But that day I did.

Inside temple i saw this beautiful girl in yellow reshme langa ( thats a traditional dress for teenage girls in karnataka ) playing with a child. Looks like she had a shower and her wet hair made her look more sexy. For My surprise she started singing some devotional songs and her singing was equally good. No need to mention that i became a regular visitor to temple. Even though my Mom was bit surprised about my temple visit, she never bothered to ask anything about that. I came to know about her name only when school started and we both were in same class, She was Miss. R. Suddenly that halli became a much nicer place to stay.

In School First thing i came to know about her was her name and second thing was that she has a Boy Friend in same school, one year senoir to us. I said " What the Heck". Are all good girls under sun already booked ? As that halli was a very small place and rumours spread very fast in small places. So i just prayed that this boy friend thing is just one more rumour. That place was very orthodox and Boy talking to girl is a very rare thing. But still i decided to give my best,We started off with smiling at each other. By the time we started saying "Hi", "Hello", Six monthe were over. At the end of first year we were having some small quick chats and were friends. One day this girl came to my house. I was very happy to see her in my place, at the same time was trying to imagine how big this news of Miss R visiting my place will be in school next day. I am sure everyone will be talking about me. But suddenly my thinking came to a halt when Miss R told me that this boy friend thing is not a rumour. She is really in Love with that senior lucky bastard. When Girl Says "NO", then just term that relationship as crush and move on.

Recently I attended her marriage with her boy friend. I thought that was the end of a chapter, but it turned out to be the begining of new chapter.

Lets not talk about my PU Days because those days i was so busy in studying that i forgot that i am a human being and human beings will have some basic needs. It was like i have locked myself in a room with pile of books inside. For two years there was no place for Girls in my brain because it was stuffed with physics. maths and chemistry. It ended soon and I was getting ready for new life, new friends in Engineering.

First Day in E and C prayed god to give atleast couple of good Items in my class. First period started and there was nothing interesting on girl's side. It always happens like this, God never listens to me. Heard couple of people telling that all good looking girls are in Comp Sci. I had a option of taking Comp Sci but I am such a big Idiot that I took EC. Now I have to spend four years roaming aroung Comp Sci department.

Next day there was a new admission in my class and the girl who joined was the most sexy girl of our college. I just sat there and started imagining of doing a electronics project with her. I just said to myself I Love " Electronics and Communication". But soon realised that there are thousands of people willing to do project with her. So did not wanted to add one more name to that list.

Couple of years into engineering there were few girls who became my friends but never felt like doing a electronice project with any of them :). In last year of enginnering suddenly a girl Miss T became very close to me through SMS. She was in my college for four years but never thought much about her because she had a boy friend and he was the bad boy of college. Messing up with him was the last thing i wanted to do. Inspite of her Boy Friend I became good friend of Miss T. We used to spend hours talking about each other and all the stuff which were completely irrelevant for both of us. She is a very ambitious girl and i knew no one can stop her from achieving her goals. As Expected She went abroad for higher studies. When it comes to true love i would prefer to take some suggestions from this girl cause she has some good experience in that.

By the end of enginnering i decided that i can never have a girl friend in my life because if you cant have a girl fried in engineering days then you will never have one. I was single and i was happy. I thanked God for keeping me single and happy. As I have already told you god never listens to my prayers. From No where This Girl made a entry into my life. Lets Call her Miss X. No her name won't start from letter X. Eventhough we human beings are doing algebra for years, but still X is unknown. Even though i know her for years still she is like a unknown X to me. She is the most beautiful yet complex creature created by god. Almost impossible to figure out what is running in her mind. Sometimes she makes me feel as though i am the guy she wants to be with forever. Next minute makes me realise that i dont have any value in her life.

If you ask me about this girl, I am confused. I dont know whether she is the one made for me. Only Time can answer this question. But i know if God has specifically created a girl for me, then she will be pretty much similar to Miss X. She is the one whose absence in my life makes me go mad. She is the one whose smile makes my life beautiful.

It is very difficult to tell what you feel towards a Girl is True Love or just a crush. You have to make a choice by instinct and only time will answer that question. I feel only around 5% of couples in this world are in true love. Rest Spend their lives making themselves believe that they are in true love. I dont want to fall into that majority group. So its better to take time instead of taking a wrong decision. I just hope that i will take a decision at some point of time and that will be right.

In any case I have N number of Aunts in my family to search a right match for me.
Mr. X
　
"I am MAD FOR HER but Why I am Not MADE for Her…???"

ಸ್ನೇಹದ ಕಡಲಲ್ಲಿ ನೆನಪಿನ ದೊಣಿಯಲಿ

15/09/2004

ಇಂದು ಮುಂಜಾನೆಯಿಂದ ಏನೋ ಒಂದು ತರಹದ ತಳಮಳ,ಉತ್ಸಾಹ.ಕಾಲೇಜ್ ಅಡ್ಮಿಶನ್ ಮಾಡಿಸಲು ಉಡುಪಿಯಿಂದ ಮೈಸೂರಿಗೆ ಬಂದಿದ್ದೆ.ಆದರೆ ನನ್ನ ಇಂದಿನ ಈ ಉತ್ಸಾಹಕ್ಕೆ ಕಾರಣ,ಇಂದು ನಾನು ಮಾಡಬೇಕಿದ್ದ ಒಂದು ಅಪರೂಪದ ಭೇಟಿ. ನನ್ನ ಕಳೆದ ಹತ್ತು ವರ್ಷಗಳ ಕನಸು ನನಸಾಗುವ ದಿನ ಕಡೆಗೂ ನನ್ನ ಮುಂದಿತ್ತು. ಜೆ.ಸಿ.ಇ.ಯಲ್ಲಿ ನನ್ನ ಕೆಲಸಗಳು ಮುಗಿದ ನಂತರ ,ಮನೆಯ ವಿಳಾಸ ನೀಡಿ ಆಟೋ ಹತ್ತಿದೆ.ಆಟೋ ದಟ್ಟವಾದ ಕಪ್ಪಗಿನ ಹೊಗೆ ಕಾರುತ್ತಾ ಚಲಿಸಲು ಶುರುವಾಯಿತು. ಆದರೆ ಅದಕ್ಕಿಂತ ವೇಗವಾಗಿ ನನ್ನ ಮನಸು.

ನಾನು ಕಣ್ಣು ತೆರೆದ ಕ್ಷಣದಿಂದ ನನ್ನ ಜೊತೆ ಇದ್ದು, ನಂತರ ಈ ಜಗತ್ತನ್ನು ಅರಿಯುವ ಮೊದಲೇ ಅನಿವಾರ್ಯ ಕಾರಣಗಳಿಂದ ನನ್ನಿಂದ ದೂರಾದ ನನ್ನ ಬಾಲ್ಯದ ಗೆಳತಿ, ನೆನಪಿನ ಅಂಗಳದಲ್ಲಿ ಎಂದು ಬಾಡದ ಹೂವಿನಂತಿರುವ 'ಸ್ನೇಹ'. ಇವಳು ನನ್ನ ಸಹಪಾಟಿಯೂ ಹೌದು; ಪ್ರತಿ ಸ್ಪರ್ಧಿಯೂ ಹೌದು. ಒಂದೇ ವಠಾರದಲ್ಲಿ ಇದ್ದುದರಿಂದ ನಾವು ಜೊತೆಯಾಗಿರುವುದಕ್ಕಿಂತ ಜಗಳವಾಡಿದ್ದೇ ಹೆಚ್ಚು.ಆದರೆ ನಮ್ಮ ಗೆಳೆತನ ನಮಗೆ ಅರಿವಿಲ್ಲದಂತೆ ಎಲ್ಲ ಸೀಮೆಗಳನ್ನು ಮೀರಿ ಬೆಳೆದು ನಿಂತಿತ್ತು. ಈಗ ಹತ್ತು ವರ್ಷಗಳ ನಂತರ ಮತ್ತೆ ನಮ್ಮಿಬ್ಬರ ಮಿಲನ.

ಬಾಲ್ಯದ ಆ ದಿನಗಳು ಬಹುಶಃ ನನ್ನ ಜೀವನದ ಸುವರ್ಣ ಕ್ಷಣಗಳು. ನಮ್ಮಿಬ್ಬರ ಆಟದಲ್ಲಿ ಯಾವಾಗಲೂ ನಾನು ಮೋಸ ಮಾಡುತ್ತಿದ್ದೆ. ಆದರೂ ಸೋಲುತ್ತಿದ್ದೆ. ಒಮ್ಮೆ ನನ್ನ ಮೋಸವನ್ನು ಅರಿತು, ಕೋಪದಿಂದ ಬಂದು ನನಗೆ ಹೊಡೆದಿದ್ದಳು. ನಾನು ಅಳಲಿಲ್ಲ; ಆದರೆ ಅವಳ ಕಣ್ಣಲ್ಲಿ ನೀರಿತ್ತು. ಆ ಗಾಯದ ಗುರುತನ್ನು ನೋಡಿಕೊಂಡೆ. ಕಲೆ ಇನ್ನೂ ಹಸಿರಾಗಿಯೇ ಇದ್ದಂತ್ತಿತ್ತು. ನನ್ನ ಮದುರ ನೆನಪು ಕೂಡ.

ಅವಳ ಪರಿವಾರವನ್ನು ಬೀಳ್ಕೊಡುವ ದಿನ ನಮ್ಮ ಮನೆಯಲ್ಲಿ ಒಂದು ಚಿಕ್ಕ ಪಾರ್ಟಿ ಇತ್ತು. ನಾವು ಇಬ್ಬರು ಜೊತೆಯಾಗಿ ಕಳೆಯುವ ನಮ್ಮ ಬಾಲ್ಯದ ಕಡೆಯ ದಿನ ಎಂಬ ಅರಿವು ಇಲ್ಲದೆ, ದಿನ ಪೂರ್ತಿ ಆಡಿದೆವು, ನಲಿದೆವು.ನಂತರ ಸಂಜೆ ವಿಷಯ ತಿಳಿದಾಗ ಅವಳಿಗೆ ವಿದಾಯ ಹೇಳಲು ಧೈರ್ಯವಿಲ್ಲದೆ, ಎದುರು ನಿಂತಿರುವ ಸಿಚುಏಷನ್ ಎದುರಿಸಲಾಗದೆ ಹೇಡಿಯಂತೆ ಅಟ್ಟದ ಮೇಲೆ ಕುಳಿತಿದ್ದೆ. ನಂತರ ಧೈರ್ಯ ಮಾಡಿಕೊಂಡು ಅವಳಿಗೆ ಟಾಟಾ ಹೇಳಲು ಬಂದಾಗ ಸಮಯ ಮಿಂಚಿತ್ತು. ಜೀವನ ನನ್ನನ್ನು ಅಲ್ಲೆ ಬಿಟ್ಟು ತನ್ನ ದಾರಿ ಬದಲಿಸಿತ್ತು.

ಬಹುಶಃ ಜೀವನದಲ್ಲಿ ಮೊದಲ ಬಾರಿ ಒಂದು ತರಹದ ಇನ್ಸೆಕ್ಯೂರ್ ೞೀಲಿಮ್ಗ್ ಬಂದಿತ್ತು. ಜೀವನದ ಕಡೆಯವರೆಗೂ ನಾನು, ಸ್ನೇಹ, ಬಾಲ್ಯ, ಆಟ, ಗೆಳೆತನ ಎಲ್ಲ ಹಾಗೆ ಇರುತ್ತೆ ಎಂದು ಯೋಚಿಸುವಷ್ಟು ಮುಗ್ಧತೆ (ಬಹುಶಃ) ಇಬ್ಬರಲ್ಲಿಯೂ ಇತ್ತು. ಸ್ನೇಹ ಒಂದು ದಿನ ದೂರವಾಗುತ್ತಾಳೆ ಎಂದು ಕನಸಿನಲ್ಲಿಯೂ ಯೋಚಿಸಿರಲಿಲ್ಲ. ಆದರೆ ಆ ವಿದಾಯದ ದಿನ, ಎಲ್ಲರೂ ಎಣಿಸಿದ್ದಕ್ಕಿಂತಲೂ ಬೇಗ ಬಂದಿತ್ತು. ಸಮಯ ಎಲ್ಲವನ್ನು ಮರೆಸುತ್ತದೆ. ಸಮಯದೊಂದಿಗೆ ನಾನು ಅವಳನ್ನು ಮರೆತೆ, ಇಲ್ಲ ಮರೆಯಲು ಪ್ರಯತ್ನಪಟ್ಟೆ.ಇದರಲ್ಲಿ ನಾನು ಎಷ್ಟು ಸಫಲನಾದೆ ಎಂಬುದು ಮಾತ್ರ ಇಂದಿಗೂ ನಿಗೂಧ.

ನಾನು, ಸ್ನೇಹ, ನಮ್ಮ ಬಾಲ್ಯ. ಆದರೆ ಈಗ ಸಂದರ್ಭ ಬದಲಾಗಿದೆ. ನಮ್ಮಿಬ್ಬರ ಬಾಲ್ಯ ಮುಗಿದು, ನಮ್ಮ ಆತ್ಮೀಯತೆಗೆ ಆಧಾರವಾಗಿದ್ದ ಮುಗ್ಧತೆ ನಶಿಸಿಹೋಗಿತ್ತು. ನನ್ನ ಕಂಡ ಕೂಡಲೆ ಅವಳ ಪ್ರತಿಕ್ರಿಯೆ ಹೇಗಿರಬಹುದು? ಸಮ್ತೋಷದಿಂದ ಚೀರಿ ಚಿಕ್ಕಂದಿನ ಸ್ಟೈಲ್ನಲ್ಲಿ ನನ್ನ ಕೈ ಹಿಡಿದು ಮನೆಯೊಳಗೆ ಎಳೆದುಕೊಂಡು ಹೋಗಬಹುದೆ? ಅಥವಾ ಬಾಗಿಲನ್ನು ತೆರೆದು ಬಾಗಿಲ ಸಂಧಿಯಲ್ಲಿ ಲಜ್ಜೆಯಿಂದ ಮರೆಯಾಗಬಹುದೆ? ಅಥವಾ ದೇವದಾಸನನ್ನು ಕಂಡ ಪಾರೂ ಹಾಗೆ ಮಹಡಿಯಲ್ಲಿ ಅವಿತುಕೊಳ್ಳಬಹುದೆ? ದೇವರೆ, ಈ ಓಡುವ ಮನಸ್ಸಿಗೆ ಲಗಾಮಿಲ್ಲವೆ? ನಾನು ನಕ್ಕೆ, ಮನಸ್ಸು ನಕ್ಕಿತು.

ಆಟೋ ಮುಖ್ಯ ರಸ್ತೆಯನ್ನು ದಾಟಿ ಒಂದು ಹೌಸಿಂಗ್ ಕಾಲೋನಿ ಪ್ರವೇಶಿಸಿತು. ನಾನು ಹತ್ತು ವರ್ಷಗಳಿಂದ ಕಾದಿದ್ದ ಆ ಕ್ಷಣ ಯಾವ ಘಳಿಗೆಯಲ್ಲಿ ಬೇಕಾದರೂ ನಿಜವಾಗಬಹುದು ಎಂಬ ಅರಿವುಂಟಾದೊಡನೆ, ನನ್ನ ಯೋಚನೆಗಳಿಂದ ಹೊರಬಂದೆ. ಎರಡು ಕಡೆಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ಮನೆಗಳು, ಅಂಗಡಿಗಳು ಹಿಂದಕ್ಕೆ ಓಡುತ್ತಿದ್ದವು. ಕ್ಷಣಗಳು ಯುಗಗಳಂತೆ ಭಾಸವಾಗುತ್ತಿತ್ತು. ಹಿಂದೆ ಓಡುವ ಪ್ರತಿಯೊಂದು ಮನೆಯ ಮುಂದೆಯೂ, ನನ್ನ ಕಣ್ಣುಗಳು ಅವಳನ್ನು ಹುಡುಕಲು ಪ್ರಾರಂಭಿಸಿದವು. ಆದರೆ ಇಂದು, ಸ್ನೇಹ ನನ್ನ ಎದುರು ಬಂದು ನಿಂತರೂ, ನಾನು ಗುರುತು ಹಿಡಿಯಲಾರದಷ್ಟು ಬದಲಾಗಿರುತ್ತಾಳೆ-ಎಂಬ ವಿಚಾರ ತಲೆಯೊಳಗೆ ಬಂದ ಕೂಡಲೆ ಒಮ್ಮೆ ನನ್ನೊಳಗೆ ನಕ್ಕು, ಅಲ್ಲೆ ಒರಗಿ ಕುಳಿತೆ. ಆಟೋ ಒಮ್ಮೆಯೆ ಧಸಕ್ಕನೆ ಒಂದು ಮನೆಯ ಮುಂದೆ ನಿಂತಿತು. ಕಡೆಗೂ ನನ್ನ ಹತ್ತು ವರ್ಷಗಳ ತಪಸ್ಸು ಸಾಕಾರಗೊಳ್ಳುವುದರಲ್ಲಿತ್ತು. ಸ್ವಲ್ಪ ಚಡಪಡಿಕೆಯಿಂದಲೆ ಮನೆಯ ಕರೆಘಮ್ಟೆ ಒತ್ತಿದೆ. ಯಾರೋ ಅಪರಿಚಿತರು ಬಾಗಿಲು ತೆರೆದು, ಸ್ನೇಹಳ ಪರಿವಾರ ಒಂದು ತಿಂಗಳ ಹಿಂದೆ ಮನೆ ಬದಲಾಯಿಸಿದ ವಿಷಯ ತಿಳಿಸಿದರು. ಒಂದು ಕ್ಷಣ ಷಾಕ್ ಆದರೂ ಸಾವರಿಸಿಕೊಂಡು, ಅವರ ಬಳಿ ಒಂದು ಲೋಟ ನೀರು ಕೇಳಿ, ಅಲ್ಲೆ ಕಮ್ಬಕ್ಕೆ ಒರಗಿ ನಿಂತೆ. ದೂರದಲ್ಲಿ ಯಾರೋ ಹಾಡುತ್ತಿದ್ದರು.

'ಎಲ್ಲ ಮರೆತಿರುವಾಗ ಇಲ್ಲ ಸಲ್ಲದ ನೆಪವ,

ಹೂಡಿ ಬರದಿರು ಮತ್ತೆ ಹಳೆಯ ನೆನಪೇ'.....

Nitin R Kidiyoor

Why Did You Change???

Let me make it very clear from beginning that this is not my letter. But i will be telling a lie to all you readers if i tell that this is completely fictional. As i have told you that my friends love to share their stories with me, so i know some real stories. This is one of them. People who are in my inner circle might be able to identify the characters. Go ahead guys give it a shot. This is the first time i am writing some other guy's story, so i just hope that i will do justice to his feelings and this letter. 

Dear Pavithra Bhat, 

I want to start this letter with a compliment to you. You are the most intelligent girl i have ever seen. The way you handled our relationship was awesome. I always thought you are dumb compared to me and i am the one who will be taking this relationship forward and controlling it. Now when i sit back and think about everything that has happened between us, all i can realize is that, my assumptions were wrong.. 

( Sorry for interruption dear readers, if you are trying to identify the characters with that name Pavithra Bhat, then i want to let you know that i am not a fool. Names have been changed. actually Pavithra Bhat is name of a 35 year old lady in mindtree. But i don't know why i choose that name out of the lot )

I am not sure whether, are all girls are intelligent like you and all boys are dumb like me. I don't know many girls so i don't know the first part, but i know many guys, so i know that all boys are dumb like me. You can take any relationship and a girl will be controlling it directly or indirectly.

I saw you for the first time 18 months back and i knew straight away that you will be someone in my inner circle. You are so good looking, but i was not impressed with your beauty but with your innocence and enthusiasm in life. I had a soft corner for you somewhere deep down my heart. I always used to care about you. I did all crazy stuff to solve all your problems and to see you happy. I have thought so many times, why i do all these stuff for you. But still today i am clueless. 

With time you became close to me. When i used to tell something you used to sit beside me and listen to all crazy stuff with your bright eyes full of curiosity. Those were the best days of my life. I have had so many wonderful moments in my life but there is no moment which can match moments i spent with you. Everything was so good. Everything was on track till your mom visited your two months back.

Still i don't know what happened in that couple of days. But i know one thing, that is you have changed a lot after that. I hate when people change. I felt like talking to a stranger when i used to interact with you. There was something which came between us. Still i don't know what is it?

You avoided me, started ignoring my mails and messages. It did not take much time for me to realize that you are ignoring me but took lot of time to accept it. I really don’t know what happened to you. It’s really difficult to accept the fact that someone in my inner circle needs me no more. But you used to tell that you are very busy and don’t get much time to respond. Let me tell you one thing, it’s very important to give time in any relationship. I have seen many relationships break just because they did not have time for each other. I tried my best to explain these things to you. But all my efforts went in vain. 

I don’t know how you got busy in your life; such that you don’t even have time to send me a single good night message. It takes just 10 seconds to type in a message and bring a smile in your friend’s face.I think you must have found something which is more important than me. Even now when I sit back and think about you, I can't digest the fact that you have changed. Just get a feeling like losing a very good friend, but worst part is even if I search, I am not going to get her because she has got transformed into a completely new person. 

There is nothing important to me than your happiness. Whenever I was in a dilemma to take some decision, I used to think which one makes you happier and just used to take that decision. Now you are making me feel that you are not happy to be in touch with me. So letting you go is the decision that I can take which makes you feel happy. I hope I was a good friend of your’s and I don’t expect anything from your end. If you are not comfortable to be in touch with me, then I don’t even expect you to be in touch with me. I don’t want to force myself on anyone including you. No one should feel bad just because I am present in their life. It’s a very tough decision for me to take and much more difficult to execute but I have to do this for your happiness. You have left me with no options. 

I have no idea how you are going to take this (Whether you will be happy that I am moving out or otherwise) thing. I just know one thing, if you want me in your life then you will come back to me otherwise we were never destined to be friends. Just remember one thing that any point of time if you are in need of a real friend then don’t hesitate to reach out to me. Have a good life. 

Your old friend, 
Vijay 

At the end of letter if you are feeling that this guy Vijay is some sort of emotionally weak, amateur guy, then that’s a failure on my part of describing his feelings. He is a very practical guy. All life he has taken sensible decisions on all matters except this issue. I don’t know what he did was right or wrong. You must be curious to know the girl’s reply. Even I am curious to know that. But he never told me that part of story. Actually he never told me the real name of that girl. 

I don’t know whether I will publish this one or not. I wrote this for self satisfaction of writing a good one. This one was a very unique one. The only reason for them to go different ways was communication gap and not finding time for each other. May be I will show this one to Vijay and if he gives permission then only I will publish this. So if you are reading this, then that means Vijay did not mind putting this letter on public forum. Is anyone able to identify this character Vijay??? I am not going to tell that. Let that character stay in our imagination than in reality. 


Nitin R Kidiyoor

 

Song of PunyaKoti

I got this article from net. This is one of my favourite songs.

Punyakoti - a forgotten tale
dharaNi manDala madhyadoLage

mereyutiha karNATa dEshadOL

iruvakALinganemba gollana pariyanentu pELvenu
ಧರಣಿ ಮಂಡಲ ಮಧ್ಯದೊಳಗೆ

ಮೆರೆಯುತಿಹ ಕರ್ನಾಟ ದೇಶದೊಲಿರುವ

ಕಾಳಿಂಗನೆಂಬ ಗೊಲ್ಲನ ಪರಿಯನೆಂತು ಪೇಳ್ವೆನು
I speak about the cowherd Kalinga residing in the resplendent country of Karnata(ka) within the middle region of the earth .
eLeya mAvina marada kELage koLalnUduta golla gauDanu
baLasi ninda turugaLannu baLige karedanu harushadi
gange bAre gauri bAre tungabhadre tAyi bAre
puNyakOTi nInu bArE endu gollanu karedanu
golla kareda daniya kELi ella hasugaLu bandu nindu
chelli sUsi hAlu kareyalu alli tumbitu bindige
satyavE bhagavantanemba puNyakOTiya kateyidu

ಎಳೆಯ ಮಾವಿನ ಮರದ ಕೆಳಗೆ

ಕೊಳಲ್ನುದುತ ಗೊಲ್ಲ ಗುದನು ಬಳಸಿ ನಿಂದ

ತುರುಗಳನ್ನು ಬಳಿಗೆ ಕರೆದನು ಹರುಷದಿ

ಗಂಗೆ ಬಾರೆ ಗೌರಿ ಬಾರೆ ತುಂಗಭದ್ರೆ ತಾಯಿ ಬಾರೆ

ಪುಣ್ಯಕೋಟಿ ನೀನು ಬಾರೆ ಎಂದು ಗೊಲ್ಲನು ಕರೆದನು

ಗೊಲ್ಲ ಕರೆದ ದನಿಯ ಕೇಳಿ ಎಲ್ಲ ಹಸುಗಳು ಬಂದು ನಿಂದು

ಚೆಲ್ಲಿ ಸೂಸಿ ಹಾಲು ಕರೆಯಲು ಅಲ್ಲಿ ತುಂಬಿತು ಬಿಂದಿಗೆ

ಸತ್ಯವೇ ಭಗವಂತನೆಂಬ ಪುಣ್ಯಕೋಟಿಯ ಕತೆಯಿದು
Playing his flute under the young mango tree, the cowherd called to the cattle standing around him
“ Ganga (e) come, Gauri come hither, mother Tungabhadre come, Punyakoti you too come”
On hearing the cowherd’s voice, the cows came closer, and upon milking them, the vessel was filled to the brim.
This is the tale of Punyakoti who believed that Truth is God
habbidA male madhyadoLage arbhutAnendemba vyAghranu
abbarisi hasihasidu beTTada kibbiyoLu tAniddanu
moredu rOshadi guDugutA huli bhOriDuta
chhangane jigidu negeyalu chedari hOdavu hasugaLu

ಹಬ್ಬಿದ ಮಳೆ ಮಧ್ಯದೊಳಗೆ ಅರ್ಭುತಾನೆಂದೆಂಬ ವ್ಯಾಘ್ರನು

ಅಬ್ಬರಿಸಿ ಹಸಿಹಸಿದು ಬೆಟ್ಟದ ಕಿಬ್ಬಿಯೊಳು ತಾನಿದ್ದನು

ಮೊರೆದು ರೋಷದಿ ಗುದುಗುತ ಹುಲಿ ಭೋರಿಡುತ

ಚ್ಚನ್ಗನೆ ಜಿಗಿದು ನೆಗೆಯಲು ಚೆದರಿ ಹೋದವು ಹಸುಗಳು
In the middle of the spreading forest, a hungrily roaring tiger named Arbhutan lived in a cave among the mountains
Bellowing and thundering with rage, the tiger in search of a meal leapt and jumped amidst the cattle upon which they ran helter - skelter.
puNyakOTi emba hasuvu tanna kandana nenedukonDu
munna hAlanu koDuvenenuta chendadi tA barutire
indenage AhAra sikkitu endu bEgane dushTa vyAghranu
bandu baLasi aDDagaTTi nindanA hulirAyanu
ಪುಣ್ಯಕೋಟಿ ಎಂಬ ಹಸುವು ತನ್ನ ಕಂದನ ನೆನೆದುಕೊಂಡು

ಮುನ್ನ ಹಾಲನು ಕೊಡುವೆನೆನುತ ಚೆಂದದಿ ತ ಬರುತಿರೆ

ಇಂದೆನಗೆ ಆಹಾರ ಸಿಕ್ಕಿತು ಎಂದು ಬೇಗನೆ ದುಷ್ಟ ವ್ಯಾಘ್ರನು

ಬಂದು ಬಳಸಿ ಅಡ್ಡಗಟ್ಟಿ ನಿಂದನ ಹುಲಿರಾಯನು

The cow named Punyakoti, thinking of her child and planning to feed her was coming by
“Today I have found food” thought the wicked tiger and circling the cow he stood blocking her way
mEle biddu ninnanIgale bILahoyvenu ninna hoTTeya
sILibiDuvenu enuta kOpadi khULa vyAghranu kUgalu
ondu binnaha huliye kELu kandaniruvanu doDDiyoLage
ondu nimishadi moleya koTTu bandu sEruve nillige
hasida vELege sikkidoDaveya vashava mADade biDalu nInu
nusuLi hOguve matte baruveya husiya nuDiyuvenenditu

“I will fall upon you and bring you down. I will split your belly” screamed the tiger.

ಮೇಲೆ ಬಿದ್ದು ನಿನ್ನನಿಗಳೇ ಬಿಳಹೊಯ್ವೇನು ನಿನ್ನ ಹೊಟ್ಟೆಯ

ಸಿಲಿಬಿದುವೇನು ಎನುತ ಕೋಪದಿ ಖುಲ ವ್ಯಾಘ್ರನು ಕುಗಳು

ಒಂದು ಬಿನ್ನಹ ಹುಲಿಯೇ ಕೇಳು ಕಂದನಿರುವನು ದೊಡ್ಡಿಯೊಳಗೆ

ಒಂದು ನಿಮಿಷದಿ ಮೊಲೆಯ ಕೊಟ್ಟು ಬಂದು ಸೇರುವೆ ನಿಲ್ಲಿಗೆ

ಹಸಿದ ವೇಳೆಗೆ ಸಿಕ್ಕಿದೊಡವೆಯ ವಶವ ಮಾಡದೇ ಬಿಡಲು

ನೀನು ನುಸುಳಿ ಹೋಗುವೆ ಮತ್ತೆ ಬರುವೆಯ ಹುಸಿಯ ನುಡಿಯುವೆನೆಂದಿತು
Punyakoti says “Listen Tiger, I have a request. I have a son in the cowshed. I will feed him and return to you in a minute”
“At a hungry time when I have cornered you, if I do not capture you, you will slip away. Will you come back? You are lying” says the tiger
satyavE namma tAyi tande satyavE namma bandhu baLaga
satya vAkyake tappi naDedare mechchanA paramAtmanu
satyavE bhagavantanemba puNyakOTiya kateyidu
ಸತ್ಯವೇ ನಮ್ಮ ತಾಯಿ ತಂದೆ ಸತ್ಯವೇ ನಮ್ಮ ಬಂಧು ಬಳಗ

ಸತ್ಯ ವಾಕ್ಯಕೆ ತಪ್ಪಿ ನಡೆದರೆ ಮೆಚ್ಚನಾ ಪರಮಾತ್ಮನು

ಸತ್ಯವೇ ಭಗವಂತನೆಂಬ ಪುಣ್ಯಕೋಟಿಯ ಕತೆಯಿದು

“Truth is our mother and father. Truth is our near and dear. If the truth is not followed, the Supreme Self will not approve” answers Punyakoti
This is the tale of Punyakoti who believed that Truth is God
kondu tinnuvenemba hulige chendadinda bhAshe koTTu
kanda ninnanu nODi pOguve nendu bandenu doDDige
Ara moleyanu kuDiyalamma Ara baLiyali malagalamma
Ara sEri badukalamma Aru nanage hitavaru
ಕೊಂದು ತಿನ್ನುವೆನೆಂಬ ಹುಲಿಗೆ ಚೆಂದದಿಂದ ಭಾಷೆ ಕೊಟ್ಟು

ಕಂಡ ನಿನ್ನನು ನೋಡಿ ಪೋಗುವೆ ನೆಂದು ಬಂದೆನು ದೊಡ್ಡಿಗೆ

ಅರ ಮೊಲೆಯನು ಕುಡಿಯಲಮ್ಮ ಅರ ಬಳಿಯಲಿ ಮಲಗಲಮ್ಮ

ಅರ ಸೇರಿ ಬದುಕಲಮ್ಮ ಆರು ನನಗೆ ಹಿತವರು

“I have come after promising the tiger who wanted to kill and eat me that I will return to him after seeing you” says Punyakoti to her child
Punyakoti’s calf: “Whose udder shall I drink from? By whose side shall I sleep? With whom shall I live? Who is there to be good to me?”
ammagaLirA akkagaLirA enna tAyoDa huTTugaLirA
kanda nimmavanendu kANiri tabbaliyanI karuvanu
munde bandare hAyabEDi hinde bandare odeyabEDi
kanda nimmavanendu kANiri tabbaliyanI karuvanu
ಅಮ್ಮಗಳಿರ ಅಕ್ಕಗಳಿರ ಎನ್ನ ತಯೋದ ಹುತ್ತುಗಲಿರ

ಕಂಡ ನಿಮ್ಮವನೆಂದು ಕಾಣಿರಿ ತಬ್ಬಲಿಯನಿ ಕರುವನು

ಮುಂದೆ ಬಂದರೆ ಹಾಯಬೇಡಿ ಹಿಂದೆ ಬಂದರೆ ಒಡೆಯಬೇಡಿ

ಕಂಡ ನಿಮ್ಮವನೆಂದು ಕಾಣಿರಿ ತಬ್ಬಲಿಯನಿ ಕರುವನು

Punyakoti: “Oh mothers and sisters, those born to my mother, please look upon this orphan calf as your own”
“If he comes in front of you, please do not gore him. If he gets behind you kindly do not kick him. Please look upon this orphan as your own child.”
tabbaliyu nInAde magane hebbuliya bAyannu hoguvenu
ibbarA R^iNa tIritendu tabbikonDitu kandana
satyavE bhagavantanemba puNyakOTiya kateyidu
ತಬ್ಬಲಿಯು ನಿನದೆ ಮಗನೆ ಹೆಬ್ಬುಲಿಯ ಬಾಯನ್ನು ಹೋಗುವೆನು

ಇಬ್ಬರ ರಿನ ತಿರಿತೆಂದು ತಬ್ಬಿಕೊಂಡಿತು ಕಂದನ

ಸತ್ಯವೇ ಭಗವಂತನೆಂಬ ಪುಣ್ಯಕೋಟಿಯ ಕತೆಯಿದು

“Son, you have become an orphan. I am going into the mouth of the great tiger. Our bond ends here” Punyakoti hugs her child
This is the tale of Punyakoti who believed that Truth is God
gOvu karuvanu biTTu bandu sAvakAshava mADadante
gaviya bAgila sErinintu tavakadali huligenditu
khanDavideko mAmsavideko gunDigeya bisiraktavideko
chanDavyAghrane nInidellava nunDu santasadindiru
ಗೋವು ಕರುವನು ಬಿಟ್ಟು ಬಂದು ಸಾವಕಾಶವ ಮಾಡದಂತೆ

ಗವಿಯ ಬಾಗಿಲ ಸೇರಿನಿಂತು ತವಕದಲಿ ಹುಲಿಗೆಂದಿತು

ಖಂಡವಿದೆಕೋ ಮಾಂಸವಿದೆಕೋ ಗುಂಡಿಗೆಯ ಬಿಸಿರಕ್ತವಿದೆಕೋ

ಚಂದವ್ಯಘ್ರನೆ ನಿನಿದೆಲ್ಲವ ನುಂಡು ಸಂತಸದಿಂದಿರು

Leaving the calf behind, the cow with no further delay stood in front of the cave door and said anxiously
“Take my flesh, take my meat. Take the warm blood from my heart. Oh fierce tiger, have all this and be happy”
puNyakOTiya mAta kELi kaNNanIranu surisi nondu
kanneyivaLanu kondu tindare mechchanA paramAtmanu
enna oDahuTTakka nInu ninna kondu Ena paDevenu
ennutA huli hAri negedu tanna prANava biTTitu
ಪುಣ್ಯಕೋಟಿಯ ಮಾತ ಕೇಳಿ ಕನ್ನನಿರನು ಸುರಿಸಿ ನೊಂದು

ಕನ್ನೆಯಿವಳನು ಕೊಂದು ತಿಂದರೆ ಮೆಚ್ಚನಾ ಪರಮಾತ್ಮನು

ಎನ್ನ ಒದಹುತ್ತಕ್ಕ ನೀನು ನಿನ್ನ ಕೊಂದು ಏನ ಪಡೆವೆನು

ಎನ್ನುತ ಹುಲಿ ಹರಿ ನೆಗೆದು ತನ್ನ ಪ್ರಾಣವ ಬಿಟ್ಟಿತು

Listening to Punyakoti’s words, the tiger was pained. Shedding tears, he says “If I kill and eat you it will not please God Almighty”
“You are like a sister born with me. What will I gain by killing you?” So saying, the tiger jumped down and gave up his life
satyavE bhagavantanemba puNyakOTiya kateyidu
This is the tale of Punyakoti who believed that Truth is God

People in my inner circle...

In my life i came across so many people but there are only few who are special to me. There are only few with whom i want stay till the end. Lets call them "people in my inner circle". God has chosen most of them for me i.e they are my blood relatives. So i have to thank god because he has chosen some wonderful people to be in my inner circle. Except these god chosen relatives of mine there are very few people whom i find very special. Some of those became special to me in my first meeting with them and some people became special without my knowledge. Just at some point of time i realised that this guy/girl whom i know from such a long time is special for me.



How will i know that a person is special to me?

• If a person is in some problem and if that fact really troubles me then that person is special to me.


• If i am ready to do anything to get that person out of trouble then that person is special to me.


• If i miss someone when i am extremely happy then definitely he/she is special to me.


• If i get a good news and first thing i want to do is to share with someone then he/she is special to me.

I think out of our family we will find very few people who are special to us. Actually 90% of people will not find anyone. We might have good friends in all stages of life but only few people will have same friends in all stages of life. In my case there are only few people whom i can call as my friends. They are my friends for many years now and continue to be my friends for many more years to come. Actually i can count then with my fingers. The number is so less because i am not good in making friendships. I take a lot of time to get close to someone. But if someone enters my inner circle then he will be there for many years.