Once in Life TIme..

As I sat in front of her in Koramangala MacDonald, I was speechless and had no idea about things to talk. I was not expected to perform better than this as it was my first time. In life when u reach a stage where you are not sure of things to speak, then its better to concentrate on other things. And there was MacVegie and French Fries attracting all my attention.

This is not the first time I am seeing her. Actually she is no stranger to me. I know her from my childhood days as she is a distant relative of mine. From last couple of week I have heard so many things about her from everyone in my family, that I could have easily claimed that I knew everything about her. Even though I have seen her from my childhood days, this meet was a very special one. This was something which was going to change course of my life. Here I was not expected to meet a distant relative but someone with whom I have already decided to spend next 50-60 years of my life.

Still Its bit difficult to digest that I am getting married even before my 26th birthday. One of my this year's resolution was that somehow I will convince my AMMA that I am not ready for marriage. But Now I have to accept that this resolution failed even before entering month of Feb and somehow my AMMA won by convincing me that I am ready for marriage. But two weeks after this defeat, Now I am very glad that My AMMA won this battle and I got a chance to meet this wonderful girl. Mom's are like that. They always know exactly what we need.

Now Its almost 2 months after that speechless meeting in MacDonald and I am getting a feeling that Life would have been so good if I could have met this girl bit early. I missed some one like her in my life from so many years. Life looks much complete now. Until and unless you meet someone special in life, you will never realize how badly you are missing that person in your life. Only when we meet this special person we will know that life can be much better and complete than what it was in past.

So slowly this marriage news broke out in friends and family circle. I should say this news spread in a linear way among friends and in a exponential way within family. So many people got curious because of my sudden marriage decision and ask this question all the time.

"Nitin, Is this a Love marriage or Arranged???"

I have only one answer for this, "Its Arranged cum DEEP LOVE".

Nitin

Amritha Says....

AMRITHA

Once in life time… !! Ahem ahem.. I must rephrase it as ‘first time in my life’ which became the last one.. J After a discussion within the families, I was told that he wants to meet me before taking any decision… I was dumbfounded.. I was not at all ready for marriage.. I was still thinking that there is still time.. And one day when I heard this .. I didn’t know how to respond… I too am newly experiencing all these.. My heart was saying, “Please give me some more time to think.. !”… It’s difficult to me either.. But somehow managed to gain confidence and agreed to meet.

Here comes the day.. The day we decided to meet… I had come to office and whole day was puzzled so as to what am I to begin speaking… As everyone say that if I start speaking I will have lots of things to say.. But, but, but, how to begin .. I was clueless… With all these feelings, finally I started from my office which is situated in Electronic City to Mc Donalds in Total Mall of Koramangala.. All the way I was only thinking of how to begin my conversation.. how how and how.. A big question mark… To divert my mind away from this I started listening to music..

Finally reached the place… The place where I am to meet and speak … Found him waiting for me.. Greeted each other and entered Mc Donalds.. To be frank, my hunger had died off.. J But still placed order and we started speaking.. It was dead silence around.. Both of us didn’t know how to start.. Then we started off with eating.. and my hatest cricket match was going on on TV.. So, he was comfortable watching the same.. It was me who was in a confusion.. L

Finally the time arose that we both shared our views, which was a good part… We spoke about our life, work, family, frenz… and did we speak something about C***H ….. ;) No.. Can’t tell that.. confidential…

But that was a memorable moment that took place in my life.. I have never told this even to him till date which I am jotting down here. My decision of getting married to Nitin was a perfect one… I have found a wonderful life partner!! Loving, Caring and adorable person indeed.J

Couple of songs....

From Last two weeks Just listening to these two songs all the time...

Teri Aankhon Ke Sivaa Duniyaa Men Rakkhaa Kyaa Hai
Ye Uthen Subah Chale, Ye Jhuken Shaam Dhale
Meraa Jinaa Meraa Maranaa Inhin Palakon Ke Tale

AND

ye chaand saa roshan cheharaa, julfon kaa rang sunaharaa ye zeel see neelee aankhe, koee raaj hain in mein gaharaa taareef karu kyaa us kee, jis ne tumhe banaayaa

2010

As I sit and write this blog, 2010 is fast approaching with lots of hope and optimism both for me and my dear ones. 2009 was a mixed bag for me. Good thing is made some progress in professional front but bad thing is lost few people in personal front.

Highs of 2009.

1. First year birthday celebration of my nephew. Its a great feeling to see a kid doing things for first time. It may either be first time when he walks or first time when he calls you MAMA.

2. Lots of Travelling. Trip to Hogenakal, Hampi, Mysore and Jog.

3. Made some good friends both in professional and personal front.

4. Couple of people in my inner circle showed some courage and decided to get married and settle down. I am very happy for both of you.

5. My first big investment. Hope it will give good returns in long run.

Lows of 2009.

1. Lost couple of people very close to me.

2. No hike in Salary. Thank god recession is gone.

So here I am looking forward to 2010 with lots of expectations and hope.

My new year resolutions:

1. I will reduce my weight by 5kg by next march. I know this is a impossible task, but no one cares about new year resolutions.

2. Try and win back friendship of lost friends.

3. Plan for a trip to Goa and trek to Himalayas.

4. Convince my mom that I am still not ready for marriage.

I wish all of you a rocking year ahead.

Two States...

So after 5 point someone, 1 night at call center and 3rd mistake of his life, Chetan has come with this new book 2 states. Front cover of book has a map of punjab with a boy in it and a map of TN with a girl in it. So I am sure now we can guess the whole story. Punjabi Munda in love with a TN girl. He is really brave enough to claim that story is his own marriage story in front cover of book.

This book is far better than 1 night at call center and 3rd mistake of his life. So people who became his fan after 5 point someone and got heavily disappointed with his other two works and decided not to read any of his books, 2 states is a come back.

Chetan is a good story teller. But he is at his best when story is related to him. He would have seen all characters and incidents in real life. Both 5 point someone and 2 states are his real life stories. Its always easy to tell a story which has really happened and which we have seen. In fact its quite impossible to write a complete fiction. Even in a book which claims to be complete fiction, will have Most of the characters inspired from real life people.

Must read for people who had been to chennai cause he has done a great job in describing life in chennai and mentality of tamil people.

WHO, WHEN and WHERE.....

These days bit busy on weekdays. But I end up being more busy on weekends also. I had attended a engagement last weekend and have to attend one more this weekend. Both arranged marriages. Sometimes i really feel weird about the marriage process in India.

In US culture, couple will start a relationship as friends and then they will date for years. After doing everything and knowing each other very well they end up deciding on marriage. Even after knowing each other well and being so extra careful in their decisions they end up getting divorced couple of years later.

But in India, Boy meets a girl for half an hour ( If they are lucky and their parents are liberal, then they will get some time together..). After analyzing all the data that he/she has collected in that half an hour of their meeting, he is expected to take a decision in no more than one day. They will not get a chance to see each other till engagement is over. So its nothing less than deciding to spend your life with a stranger. Whole process looks so weird. But Guess what, India has least number of divorces. Also according to some international survey, Indians are most satisfied with their Married life.

I can remember a suggestion from a relative. Marriage is just a compromise, More compromises we are ready to make, More happily and peacefully we can live.

Deciding to get married with someone will be the toughest decision in anyone's life. For people who are in love, "WHO" will be obvious. They have to just decide on "WHEN" and "WHERE". For rest of us, this big question will always be there. WHO? And the Hunt will be always ON.

Some weird feelings...

That weird feeling came today as well. While shopping in a mall today, I suddenly felt that whatever is happening has happened before ( Even though I don't remember when that has happened ). For a while I felt someone has pressed a rewind button in my life and things are happening again. Then I tried to think of what's going to happen next ? Just felt that will get to see a girl with yellow top round the corner ( Its true that I always feel like getting to see a girl round the corner ). Guess what? There she was. But only difference is that she was wearing a pink top :(

I don't know whether everyone around me have that weird power to get such feelings. But its true that I had been through this many number of times. Sometimes I wonder has this thing happened before or its just that I knew the future.

Nothing much happening in life these days. Working like donkey for 5 days and then sleeping for remaining two days. Just finished with movie 9/11 Fahrenheit. Double thumbs up for director michael moore. Its just a documentary about bush's administration. I did not knew that Bush was on vacation for 42% of time as a president till 9/11. Must watch for all.

Serendipity - A Fortunate Accident...

You might be thinking how can a accident be fortunate? Actually we Indians have got used to term "accident" in a negative sense. But don't you think sometimes we "accidentally" run into a old friend. Sometimes "accidentally" find a very old snap in our room. Sometimes "accidentally" we do something which really touches our loved ones. So there are lot of other contexts for this term "accident" other than a road accident, where few people die and rest get stuck in a traffic jam for hours.

This whole life is a series of accidents. Both good and bad. Now only time will tell whether meeting you turns out to be a serendipity or just one more accident.